Wednesday, 13 February 2013

Making friends through blogging



 Here at Shingle Cottage i write about my life and all about our cottage,things that are happening and things that have happened and you reply to me in comments and i love that,we have our conversation there,It's interactive,It's the whole reason i started to Blog,To find girls with the same interests and passions and to talk,To make friends.....

I was sent a link to a Youtube video today by my friend and it got me thinking,It's pretty amazing that by  listening and  sharing  you can be blessed with a new friendship....

You know that girl  that get's it?

 Understands what you are trying to say or achieve?

Shares your love of  old things this or new things?

Introduces you to that book you always wanted to read but you had never heard of it?

Tells you of a film you will love and you watch it and yes you love it! and you think wow how did she know?

 She has healing words when you stumble and life is hard but she can also cheer you on when you are tired and in the middle of trying to get a room in your home to look like the picture of a room you have in your head?

.....and then you smile,You have it,You have that bond,Friendship and it can be as simple and as uncomplicated as that but it's the start,friendship has many levels and all are just as special.

I'm lucky i have met  girls like this through blogging,they read my blog and i read theirs,Some i email and some email me,i chat to some on Facebook and some i leave comments on their blogs and some i chat to here in my comments...All different but somehow all the same,they all share a goodness and a happiness.

But how do you make friends through blogging?


You have to interact....

I love taking time out to read blogs and i snuggle up somewhere cozy with my pup and a blanket and read what is going on in my friends lives and i comment....If you don't comment no one knows you are there.

Can you really be friends with a girl you have never met? 

Who lives in a country you have never been to?

Yes i believe you can because most girls share a lot online and you don't have to guess if you have anything in common because you just read she wears your perfume or loves to take a long hot bubble bath with candles just like you do,She paints furniture! You paint furniture!
The list is endless.....

They share hopes and dreams,good and bad times and those girls are out there now hitting publish on their blogs and waiting for you to read and comment and make friends,How do i know this? because i'm doing it too....

Does that sound needy? No i don't think it does everyone needs friends,friends make life more fun,the friends i have made through blogging have opened my eyes to a lot of things i may never have known about.
Reading a Blog is simply listening to a person who is telling you about their day,their home or past and all you have to do is answer....
It's simple....When you read that blog and you think to yourself oh i love that too or i do that,tell her,leave a comment,let her know....Trust me she will be thrilled. 

 We all share some pretty personnel things time to time out here in Blogland,Things we wouldn't share with a stranger in every day life or would we if we were given the chance?

Watch............



Every time we hit publish on a new post are we really saying..... 


'Take a seat and make a friend' ?


For those of you that are thinking of writing a blog my advice would be to just do it!
 Write about your life,Hopes,Dreams and ambitions and yes it will be interesting to the girl out there waiting to read it who shares that common  interest you just wrote about or who has an answer to the question you just asked....

Get typing!

'Friends and good manners will carry you where money won't go'
Margaret Walker


Join me next time for more tales and goings on from Shingle Cottage....

XxX 

41 comments:

  1. Hello, I thoroughly enjoyed this post. I started blogging six years ago and since then I have met friends around the globe, some of them I met in person and it was a joy. I just "found" your blog recently so I'm a newer reader and Follower.

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  2. Hello Connie :)
    I really hope to meet some of my blogging friends in person too,I can imagine what a joy it was for you to finally meet.
    I am on my way over to your Blog now,See you in a minute x

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  3. Blogging is so much fun. Your opportunity to see, be, learn and create with others. Sometimes, there instruction, sometimes there life. Thanks Connie for sharing your post on meeting friends. It is so joyous to know friends via the blogging world or in person. Hugs, friend.... Cindy

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    1. You said it perfectly Cindy!
      'Blogging is so much fun. Your opportunity to see, be, learn and create with others. Sometimes, there instruction, sometimes there life'....I love that!
      xxx

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  4. Next week it's a year since I started my blog, but I'd been looking at other blogs for a long time and I've 'met' some lovely people. I never expected the warmth and loyalty that you receive from fellow bloggers, the first time I pressed the publish button! I love your blog as I like painting stuff and generally titivating, but also like the story you tell along the way.

    I already knew 2 bloggers when I started and have met a couple more since, but also people who used to live in my area have introduced themselves and told me about their lives.

    Bloggers of the world unite!

    Claire xx

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    1. Hi Claire :)
      'Bloggers of the world unite' is brilliant! It really is a fabulous community support and encouragement isn't it,I know a lot moved to other social media but blogging is my favourite,It's more cozy i think.
      xxx

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  5. UGH! I just wrote a long rambling comment and it wouldnt publish! how annoying! anyway, just to say hello, and you are so right. I have some wonderful virtual friends two of whom i have met for real! One in NYC and one in London. How cool is that! and it was like we were seperated at birth! haha!!

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  6. Oh that's so annoying when that happens! Hello to you too!
    That is very cool and even better that you feel that close to them :)
    Thanks for stopping by x

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  7. Through blogging i have met the coolest women ever, and you're one of them! It has been an amazing experience. Talking to like minded women all over the country, and finding out that there are kooky people not unlike me everywhere.

    Cindy

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    1. Hi Cindy,
      You are one of my coolest women too ;) It truly is amazing and life enriching to meet like minded women and that they share the same thoughts xxx

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  8. What a lovely post. I don't blog much now but like to read and comment, its so therapeutic.

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    1. Hi Amanda,
      Thank you, 'therapeutic' yes your right it is xxx

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  9. Yes I have met some amazing women just in the first year I started blogging.It is wonderful to meet other people who share the same interests as you do.
    xx
    Anne

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    1. Hi Anne,
      I love to read blogs and there really are so many amazing women out there,So inspiring and like you say wonderful when you share the same interests.
      xxx

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  10. This post really spoke to me, so thank you!
    www.rsrue.blogspot.com

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  11. I'm new to blogging but enjoying every minute. I love to catch up with my virtual friends and still get really excited when they have left me a comment. It's so wonderful to find like minded people out there. I would love to hopefully met up with in the future.
    Rosezeeta.

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    1. It's so much fun isn't it? I think comments really make a huge difference to the writer and the reader it gives you that bond and potential friendship.
      xxx

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  12. What a lovely post. It is just how I feel about blogging. Thanks J

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  13. It's great to "get to know" bloggers and enjoy their triumphs and wish them well with the sad parts of life, but just up and turning oneself into a blogger is another thing entirely. I cannot in my wildest imagination think that i have the technical skills to blog, for one thing. Then there is the problem of having something to write about often enough to not be forgotten between times. And the big one: I am on the web so long reading so many blogs that i would not have time to write about the pieces i'm doing over--or do them over, even. And who is interested in the fact that i am so dumb i didn't change clothes today to work on my latest chair, and had to scrub ASCP Arles off my purple pullover and my grey fleece vest AND a bit of it on my favorite jeans...... but i would like to see more chandeliers, bloggers. I have a builders chandy that I was going to do in ORB but today think I might do in multicolors...which means nothing will get done til i finally figure it out, so nothing much to write about.

    But.....I love reading your blog, you nameless friend. I'm originally from the midlands and had to look up Knarborough (sp?) on my Ordnance Survey map. Now I know I want to live near you and enjoy your pink cottage, the rabbit, the birds on the roof, the flowers in the garden. I love the pink things you create, but they are not my 'style,' which is more blues, turquoise, greys, and the colors of the southern seacoasts. Still, I'm fascinated with what you have done in shingle cottage and have learned a lot for when i finally get my own cottage by the sea. Right now, i live in the mountains, but soon it will be time for a change. It's just sad to me that I won't have the opportunity to have my own cottage by the English shore. Over here in the US, the southern coast means hurricanes, floods, and now, tornadoes. Not my cup of tea. So I shall continue to share your makeovers from afar and learn from you in your peaceful life with you accommodating, and no doubt handsome, husband. I do have foxglove here, and pink roses, rhododendrons, and rosemary and thyme and parsley. More rabbits than you have, I'll bet. And deer to eat everything i don't fence in. And bluebirds in their box and cardinals at the feeder. And lots of bloggers who don't know i'm even out here, but i share their creations, too. Bon chance, my friends.

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    1. Hi Marje,
      You painted a fabulous picture with your words and i am always covering myself in chalk paint ;)
      I love the blues, turquoise and greys too,My Sister and i had our beach chalet all in those shades and it was beautiful...The dining room at Shingle Cottage will be all in those shades and i am so excited to get going on it but it will have to wait until Spring/Summer,i wil blog all about it.
      It's wonderful to think i'm over here with my rabbits and foxgloves by the sea and you have the same over there in the mountains.
      So happy to know you are out there my friend xxx

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  14. Though I don't have a blog, I certainly do love reading them ... Shingle Cottage being one of my very favorites. I feel like such a voyeur every time I get lost in a wonderful post and am so excited when the blogger is kind enough to reply to my comment. Thanks so much for the attention you return to all of us ... your avid fans. I think I speak for most of us when I say it tickles us as much to receive your reply as it does you to receive our comments.
    Diane

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    1. Hello Diane ;)
      Thank you,I feel just the same when i read the blogs i follow,Your welcome and thank you for taking the time to comment to me too it makes all the difference xxx

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  15. Sometimes I think that I am a bit crazy thinking about, worrying about, wondering about people whom I have never met. People whom I know only by the words they post on a screen, the storied that they tell, and the photos that say more. I wonder if they think of me. I started to blog because I liked the idea of being able to write for a real audience, "publish" my photos for with a purpose, but I never considered that I would find new friends. I have so enjoyed your blog, watching your cottage dream come true. I feel like have made great friends who have become very dear to me. You have written so perfectly about why we become such faithful bloggers.

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    1. I know just what you mean Ann,I do and think it too.
      I think about my blogging friends and talk about them too,I think too much sometimes as Steve knows who i am talking about,he will say to me you mean the girl in America,Teacher? likes gardening? and i say yes that Ann,My blogging friends are now a part of my life.
      I love having you with us on our journey Ann xxx

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  16. Well, I understood every word you wrote about connecting with other like minded people and saw your comments as a celebration of finding them, maybe one day I will start a blog, I just have to perhaps chill out a bit and try even although I’m not to confident in getting started, however, I share your feelings and understand your words and I think to find other like minded people would be so liberating so maybe one day soon I’ll try.
    I just love your blog and Shingle Cottage and all what your doing and have done to it and feel privileged to keep up with the progress like a good and close neighbour and friend. I also loved the wee film from Super Soul Sunday and it’s not even 8 am and I have already been inspired twice this morning once from the wonderful film and once (again ) by you. Many thanks Mary x

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    1. Hi Mary,
      I hope you do start a blog,just write from the heart and hit publish,if you need any help setting up be sure to ask and i will help you :)
      Thank you that is so nice of you to say and that is just how i see you Mary Lindsay now,like a close neighbor and good friend,When i read and reply to your comment i will imagine we are sat in the garden drinking tea together and chatting.
      The film is amazing isn't it? i loved it and it made me tear up i found it so beautiful that strangers moments before would then hug and take a picture.
      xxx

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  17. Hello dear K, such a beautiful post and yes, it's all so true. Sometimes it feels that blog friends know and understand more about your hobbies and loves than your friends you see all the time. It's that connection we share in hobbies, thought, ideas and stories that bind us. Likeminded souls interacting with each other although never having met. A connection of likeminded spirits...Have a lovely Valentine's day today! Sharon

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  18. Hello Sharon :)
    Yes it does seem like that,just how i see it too! I know if i write a blog post and ask something that you girls will get it.
    Happy Valentines Day xxxx

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  19. Hey! I thought I was your only blogging facebook friend!!! Whats going on over here?? hah! So true about real friendships being made. All it takes is seeing a common connection and jumping in with your comments...like anything it is built over time. I enjoy our morning FB message chats, its fun to think you are across the ocean doing just what I am doing in the USA,

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    1. Oh no Amy i thought you were busy at Maison Decor!!!!! I'm so sorry,forgive me??? haha!
      I love our morning chats too,So fun! Always makes me giggle that you are in your pj's!
      Have a lovely weekend xxx

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  20. I'm another who hasn't the confidence to start a blog - what do I write about? My life now I'm retired is a simple one consisting mainly of dog walks or seeing my young grandchildren who live just a few miles away (older ones live many, many miles away and I have missed their growing years. :(
    Many a day I stay at home, reading, knitting, gardening, housework (who wants to read about THAT?) Lol, lol.
    But I do love camping even at my great age! In a few weeks I shall be spending a week's holiday, with my Border Collie, in a railway carriage, sited at Cadgwith in Cornwall - looking forward to that a lot! I shall take several books so that even if the weather is unkind I shall enjoy my stay - but hopefully we will be able to walk the coastal path and see the fabulous scenery.
    Love your blog and always check if you've added to it. I'm looking forward to seeing how you decorate your gorgeous cottage in the future. xx

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    1. There are many retired girls blogging just the same things! You should start a blog 'Rambler' i want to see pictures of the railway carriage and collie dog walks on the beach,pictures of your book open next to a cup of tea maybe? sounds like a lovely week away.
      Reading,Knitting and gardening are also great blog subjects and knitting is on my list of things i would like to do.
      Thank you,Have a lovely holiday xxx

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  21. It’s interesting to read about your reasons for blogging…I first started way back in 2006 as a way of promoting my business, but also in the hope of connecting with like minded people. What was wonderful was that many of the girls I began to connect with, lived reasonably close to me. After a couple of years the first (and original) Vintage & Handmade Fair was set up by Michele and Jayne, with a view to the stall holders being Bloggers, which would also provide a way for us all to connect face to face, and to meet other bloggers who wanted to shop with us. It was wonderful and I count myself very lucky to have been a part of all that, and I now have many friends that I would not have had, had it not been for the www.
    A few more years down the line though and many things have changed…Not least the worldwide economic difficulties. Many of the friends that I have made are struggling financially, with most of the products we offer for sale being ‘wants’ and not ‘needs’ it is doubly difficult. Being self-employed is a huge worry at times and I now find myself having to justify all my time spent on my blog, or on-line in general. I LOVE my blog and desperately want to continue with it, but it is suffering from low hits these days…I understand perfectly why, when I cannot spend the time visiting other blogs, commenting and networking. (I still attend many of the vintage fairs and am able to catch up with all the blogging friends face to face, which is wonderful….but we all seem to be saying that time at our blogs has become very difficult).
    (I will just say that I have experienced a downside to Blogging, in that some see a peachy-perfect life being lived, and do not appreciate that no life is this, and we all have bills to pay, housework/gardening to do, life in general to juggle etc - I have had some unwanted attention in the form of emails from people thinking they know me, but really they only know the ‘fluffy stuff’ that I report on my blog. In fact, when I’ve tried to be serious and perhaps talk about a struggle or difficulty (particularly with my shop) on my blog, it has met with negativity and some rudeness.)
    Anyway, I wanted to ask your opinion, if you don’t mind…Do you think Bloggers who cannot put in the time, should still hang on to one?…In your opinion, do most Bloggers expect comments and only visit those who visit them? Should I move-on, even though my heart tells me not too?…Again, I love putting photos etc on my blog, but have less time out and about doing other things these days, with the struggle to keep my small business fresh and viable, so have a limited choice when it come to putting together posts. (BTW - If I didn’t have my business, I doubt I would still be blogging.) BUT it has to be so, as I need to try to make a living (Hubby is also self employed, so at the times when we haven’t earned enough to pay ourselves, our determination to keep going has to step up a gear and we again have to justify time spent doing the more frivolous things…) I know you are always very generous with your time and have probably chatted to many people from all around the world…Is there a general feeling that those who cannot spare so much time should not be blogging? I’d love to go back to how things used to be, but I doubt things will ever be that again. I’ve tried Facebook and Twitter and don’t really like either of them, for various reasons…I really enjoy Pinterest as switch-off time when I have spare moments …but I don’t feel I am so connected with people on there, as very little commenting goes on. I do however love the inspiration it provides. Again it comes down to time though and I do need lots of it to make my hand crafted products too!
    Niki xx

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  22. I really enjoyed your post, and I believe that making connections online is really hard from time to time, especially when you write about personal experiences and stuff..
    But nevertheless, I enjoy reading your blog! Keep it up :) x

    mia1107.blogspot.com

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  23. I am not a blogger but love your blog! I found you last year and spent 2 days marathon Shingle Cottage-ing! I found ASCP, love of white, pink and cottage through your blog! Thank YOU!

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    1. Hello Mary,thank you for your kind words and welcome aboard :) xxx

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  24. Dear Sweet Pea! My fave flower by the way, it has been so much fun seeing your cottage evolve and bloom! Still think it would be fun to all get together! Wow that would be a huge gathering of wonderful ladies! Well anyway have a lovely week!

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    1. Hello Mary!! i adore sweet peas and have four packets of seeds waiting to be sown,it has been fun hasn't it/ i still have lots to show you ;) yes a girls get together sounds so much fun xxx

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